things do not always go according to plans

As my honey lies in bed sleeping I cannot fall asleep. I’m not sure if it’s in anticipation or habit. Either way let me catch you up on the last few days.

One of my bridesmaids and I were supposed to go try on bridesmaids dressed this past weekend but sadly she was struck with a kidney stone the night before and couldn’t make it. Thankfully she is off this Saturday to go with the rest of my bridesmaids, so all in all I think it worked out for the best. The one on one time would have been nice, but I am going to love having this great group of ladies all together! I think it is going to turn out to be a very fun day and I know that they are all going to get a long perfectly; they may not become new BFF’s but I know they don’t hate each other! I really hope that the dress I love for them will flatter them all equally. I want my girls to look their best too. I have no ugly bridesmaids and I am not putting them in ugly dresses! I love these women too much to do something like that to them.

Tonight Ryan and I took our second half of our engagement pictures. The last session we changed clothes once, both very casual dress. So tonight I decided that Ryan and I would be dressy since some or one of these pictures is going to be on our Save the Dates. I wore a nice dress and heels and Ryan wore a polo, khaki slacks and dress shoes. We took our pictures at a sunflower field and in the road (dangerous, I know; only country roads though). I know these are going to turn out just as good as the first session because our photographer is nothing short of AMAZING! Her work is always phenomenal and I am so so glad that she is photographing our wedding next year. We signed our contract with her so that is one less thing to worry about now. As soon as I get the pictures I will be sure to post some of them, but all of them will be posted on my wedding website.

Now it seems the only large things left to take care of is what Ryan and our wedding party are going to wear, flowers, DJ, food, and rehearsal dinner. We are sending out Save the Dates next month and Invitations in December. I now need to decide if I want to try to make invitations or buy them. They are just so super expensive but I guess I am only doing this once and the extra expense will be worth it right? I know that I am doing magnets for the Save the Dates, I figure people will keep better track of them that way!!  I know that in the next two months I will be crossing off at least 3 of these big things left to do, hopefully 4. Ryan and I will be choosing what him and his groomsmen are wearing when we go visit his sister and brother-in-law in September. We have already chosen a place we would like to have our rehearsal dinner but we need to go down there and talk prices with the owner and take my mother-in-law so she can ask questions, haggle prices, and voice her own opinions. At some point my parents and I need to go looking for them something to wear too; I know my father will wear what Ryan and his groomsmen wear but my mother still needs to find something. I need to make several meetings with my wedding planner and one with her and the family friend Mrs. Patty so Mrs Patty and I can start doing some DIY projects I’d like to do.

I have to say that no matter how much Ryan may push my buttons or aggravate me to no end, I am very lucky to be the one he has chosen to spend his life with. He is the man that I forever wish to fall asleep with and wake up to. In him I see my future, all the trials, tribulations, laughter, and love that awaits us, I am so glad that he is the man my children will have the honor of calling “daddy” and I am very honored to be the mother of our future children. He is such an amazing man and never fails to put a smile on my face, even as much as I want to be mad at him sometimes. He is my rock, my comfort zone, my confidant, my protector, my love, and above all my best friend (besides my girls). I am blessed beyond measure to have found the one person on this planet who is a 100% perfect match for me. I cannot wait for the day I become his wife; I only hope that I can continue to grow with him and become the wife and mother he wants and our children will need me to be. I’m ready to walk down that aisle…  only 297 more days!

this is completely not wedding related but….

If you really like super SCARY movies… go see The Conjuring. No kidding, that movie scared the shit our of me and even my fiance’ got goosebumps and he LOVESSSSS scary movies. I was so scared when we got home… I just have no idea how I even sat through that movie!  That is just my opinion, but if you really like scary movies, check it out!!!! 🙂

Quick decisions are unsafe decisions.

I may be completely indecisive but I have made a decision on bridesmaid dresses. I am going with my girls the next two weekends for them to try the dress on, and if it doesn’t go well… I will have to start from square one. But let’s think positively!! Here is the dress I have decided on…image

 

It is the dessy twist wrap dress; from all the pictures I have found online it looks really good on all body types. My original idea was to have all of my girls in different dresses and different colors. In trying to achieve that I found that it was VERY hard to do.  With this dress my girls can technically wear a different dress but can maintain conformity and make everything look cohesive. I may still put them all in different colors, I guess we’ll have to see. My MOH will probably say they all need to be in the same color, and I may just do that, I’m thinking the first long dress color. It’s the closest thing to a mint and I may put my MOH in pink? i don’t know!!! So many decisions; I will really wait to see what they all ook like in them. This dress is also made in matte jersey so the material isn’t too fancy looking, it stretches, affordable ($140), and is completely re-wearable (which was my very first thought on bridesmaids dresses). I am so excited to see my girls in these dresses!!

 

On to another decision … Ryan and I originally going to use a monogram like this one for our guestbook.image

 

Very southern and classic… but also VERY expensive. I still really LOVE this idea and may eventually still go with it, but I also found another idea that I think is feasible, not quite as expensive, and will be just as fun and decorative in our home forever. image

 

I was thinking of just having our names and wedding date in the middle. I found a 13×17 platter at Crate and Barrel on sale that we could use. I do really like the idea. I would probably use a colored platter and silver sharpies… I don’t know.

As I am typing this I am still leaning more and more towards the monogram. Really, how cute is it?!? Look at thisimage

 

I will more than likely buy one that is not finished so I can paint it and distress it myself. I would like one that is at least 22″ so it can hang above our fireplace. Also when we move, if we don’t have a fireplace it will still make great wall decor for our bedroom for the rest of our lives. I think I may have just made up my own mind! haha

 

Invitations… oh lord these are a whole different ballgame. I made invitations that I liked. They were simple, I was going to have them printed on kraft paper to go with the vintage theme. My mom didn’t care too much for them, but it may still happen anyway! I also invitations on etsy that are printable and look as though they are printed on kraft paper; plus they are lacy and antique looking. I just looked on my etsy because I was going to post a picture of them… they’re no longer on there. I don’t know if that is because I accidentally unfavorited them or if they have been removed by the designer. Ryan is really tired of looking at invitations, and I don’t blame him. I have to decide something soon though, I need to get these invitations sent out by December. I would really like simple invitations because I want to make doily wraps or a doily envelope to put my invitations in. I think it will make my invitations special and different without being too fancy (which is not how my wedding will be) and without being too expensive.

I have a family friend who is going to help me achieve some of my more crafty ideas and my Aunt Pat is also going to help me. Both of these ladies are very creative and excel in the craft department. I am glad that they both are so willing to lend me their time, effort, and creative minds. I have a ton of ideas floating around in my head. I want to make this wedding everything I could ever dream of. It is the only one I plan on having and I just want it to be something that I will be proud of for the rest of my life.

I have no clue what I want Ryan and all the men to wear. Ryan and I talked about khaki colored slacks, a white button up with the sleeves rolled up, suspenders, bow ties, and  burlap toms. I still really love the idea, I just can’t make a 100% decision until I see Ryan try things on. We are supposed to be going to Indiana to visit his sister and brother-in-law in September and while we’re there we’re going to go try things on. Since Wes is the farthest from us we’re hoping to find a style that we all like so we can make that decision and Wes will know what to rent/buy. I would like Ryan to try on a seersucker suit… nothing says southern summer like seersucker! We’ll see what happens.

 

I could sit here and pour out all of my ideas and thoughts on so many different aspects of this wedding, but it’s late and work is going to come early. As of midnight I am done with summer school and could not be more excited. 302 days until the big day!

it’s not always rainbows and butterflies…

Those of you have traveled down this road know what I mean, for those of you who don’t let me just tell you…  planning a wedding will not always be full of happy and exciting days. After a while your loving fiance’ will no longer want to look at another wedding invitation, hear about bridesmaid dresses, look at venues, try on suits.. etc. Ryan and I are already at this point.

He no longer cares what our invitations look like; from his own mouth, he would be okay if we printed them on napkins and our guests could bring those to use for dinner haha! We have barely even talked about what he was going to wear and he is already getting irritated about it. I know that he would wear and do anything I wanted because he ultimately only wants to make me happy and to make our day everything I want it to be… but sometimes I do really just want his honest opinion. His opinion is important, even more so than my MOH… and I really value her opinion too! I get frustrated and overwhelmed often… I will honestly just be ready to be married and be stress free.

Ryan is not the only reason I get stressed… we have other issues going on with the wedding that is concerning both of us and stresses me out to the max. Those issues I will not go into but it could be potentially damaging and could ruin this wedding. I just so wish that I had more help from people just  as excited as I am, but sadly my MOH is 3 hours away and my mom has had a lot going on recently and hasn’t been able to help that much. I will be glad when there aren’t many things left to do and I can hopefully quit even thinking about aspects of this wedding. I think the mixture of issues we have going on is what makes me so stressed. Until then, I’ll just have to make it work!

On a lighter note, only 304 days until I marry the man of my dreams. I cannot wait to meet him at the end of the aisle 🙂

so many dresses, so little time….

Oh the joys of choosing a bridesmaid dress. I am a very indecisive person anyway… and this is craziness! I had no problem finding my dress, but my girls dresses are proving harder to decide on. I do have one that I like the best of all the dresses I have looked at; it has a lot of good qualities that I wanted my girls dresses to have. I am going on the 20th and 27th of this month to try on dresses with my bridesmaids and I am so excited. Some of my girls have never met and I think they will all get along.

I haven’t had much of a chance to get anything else done… and that slightly worries me because my fall semester in school is going to be busy. But I do think that I will have completed the biggest things by the end of the summer. I, for one, have an awesome man who wants nothing more than to marry me, I have a wedding date, a ceremony and reception venue with deposits paid, a wedding dress that is ordered and paid for, bridesmaids, and will have a dress style number for them to order by the time fall semester starts!

I cannot wait for the year to be over and be closer to marrying the man of my dreams. 310 days to go 🙂

Two souls, one heart.

So Sunday Ryan and I had a wedding filled day. We drove to Conway, SC to visit Venue 2 in my last post. It was everything I hoped it would be! They also happen to have our exact date open, we are driving down on Wednesday to pay the deposit to hold that weekend. Ryan and I both are in love with this place… it couldn’t be any more perfect! image

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My photography isn’t great… but it is a beautiful place and I cannot wait to get married there! I hope and pray that our weekend is still open when I call to schedule an appointment to make the down payment! fingers crossed!!!!!

In other news Ryan and I took our engagement pictures on Sunday too… here’s a sneak peak!image

 

we have the BEST photographer ever! Amber with Chasing Moments Photography is so fun and energetic, she’s a joy to be around and completely makes you feel right at home. She also followed my Pinterest to get ideas of what I liked 😉 She’s the bomb!!!!

I am still wanting long bridesmaid dresses and leaning more towards having one dress in different colors. I would LOVE to do different dresses and different colors… but honestly, that is a lot of work! I am still deciding and still looking for options. I just want all of my girls to be happy, comfortable, and to look amazing. I want their dresses to flatter them and reflect a little of their personalities. If I were to do one dress in different colors it would be this one…image

it can be worn with or without straps and the waistline is universally flattering. So we will see… I will pick out some options, see what my girls like and go from there. I also was thinking of doing this dress…image

if I chose this dress they could all have the same dress, in different or the dame color and they could convert it to fit them the best. I personally am a HUGE fan of these dresses. I love them! I have some time to think about dresses… and will continue to search!

I have been getting a TON of free invitation samples in the mail (that I ordered of course!), and I am loving them. Here are some styles that I really love.

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I am leaning more towards the last two… and I will more than likely order the third one. Ryan and I both really like it!

 

 

 

 

We now have 325 days until our big day and I could not be happier. We are well on the way to having this thing all together. Now to get this dream venue 100% booked and paid for, choose bridesmaid dress(es), and a dress day with my girls…. it’ll be smooth sailing until the wedding day (i hope)!